When it comes to strengthening our relationships, we could all use a little more guidance. After all, no one is born having it all figured out, and everyone has different communication techniques and preferences. If you would like to learn more about your communication style and how to connect more effectively with the people in your life, then it’s time to call Counseling Services of Parker. We are here to help you with either individual counseling or couples counseling.
When it comes to communicating with those we love, there are a few steps we can take for healthier and clearer communication:
Find the right time – Try to plan a time for both of you to talk when you know that neither of you will be distracted or in a rush to go someplace else. Sometimes, this may mean scheduling your talk in advance.
Talk face to face – There is no way of communicating that works better than face to face. Avoid letters, email, texting, or other written communication that might be misunderstood. Feel free to write down your thoughts ahead of time, however, and read them to your partner.
Do not attack – You might mean well, but you may come across as harsher than you think because of your word choice. Sticking to “I” statements will make your partner feel less defensive and be more open to listening to what you have to say. Try “I feel like we’ve been growing apart” over “You never spend time with me anymore.”
Be honest – The truth can hurt sometimes, but you need to be honest in order to have a healthy relationship. Recognize that neither one of you is perfect, and apologize for your mistakes when you make them. By admitting your faults and owning up to your actions instead of making excuses, you will be strengthening your relationship with your partner.
Take control of your body language – Give your partner your full attention by sitting up, facing them, and making eye contact while speaking. This means putting down your phone and giving them your undivided focus.
Use the 48-hour rule – If your partner upsets you and the pain is still there 48 hours later, then it’s time to say something to them. If it doesn’t upset you after just a few hours, then it might not be worth saying anything. However, know that your partner cannot read your mind. If you don’t speak up, then they can’t apologize or change their behavior in the future.
Get Parker Counseling to Help
Communication does not come easy in times of conflict, but it’s during the hard times that we need to pay close attention to how we interact with one another. If you would like to learn more about communication and how you communicate, contact Counseling Services of Parker.
We would be happy to help you as you work on your communication skills and your interpersonal relationships. Reach out today to learn more about our services! We are happy to provide both individual counseling as well as couples counseling for those looking to learn more.
