Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a systematic series of short-run (8 to 20 ) sessions as an alternative to traditional couples therapy. Developed in the 1980s by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg, this therapy is based on research and focuses on negative forms of communication, and love as an attachment bond.

Science-Backed Research

Many studies advocate the efficacy of this therapy according to the EFT website. It is now one of the (if not the most) empirically proven couples therapy.

Research has found that 70-75% of EFT people transition from depression to rehabilitation effectively and about 90% show significant changes. The findings of these trials are significant. This improvement is also quite robust and effective, with few signs of relapse.

Benefits of EFT

EFT can benefit troubled couples including those with depression, addictions and post-traumatic stress disorder and chronic diseases, among other issues, in one or both partners. To people coping with unfaithfulness or more stressful events, current and past, EFT has proven to be an effective solution.

The attachment theory and the EFT intersect with neuroscience. Recent MRI studies have shown the importance of secure attachment. We have strong attachments, and our brains learn we are “safe” with your partner.

Any couple can perceive distance or conflict within their relationship as dangerous. Missing the bond with a loved one jeopardizes our sense of safety. The “Primal fear” also known as the panic mode, sends out an alert in part of our brain called the amygdala.

Establishing a Secure Bond

This approach eliminates the tension between partners and provides a stronger emotional connection. Couples learn from a vulnerable place to express deep emotions and ask for the fulfillment of their needs. They begin by looking at unattractive behaviors as ‘protests of disconnection,’ i.e. shutting down or angry escalation. Couples learn to open up emotionally, strengthening the bonding and the feeling of safe haven.

As behavioral therapy, EFT has many benefits. Extensive research supports EFT, and this model is a collaborative process while being considerate of clients. Instead of the couples themselves, it puts blame for the problems of couples on their negative patterns between them. The mechanism of progress was translated into a clearly defined approach with nine phases and three events that direct and monitor the clinical advances under the guidance of a therapist. A qualified EFT therapist would be a good option if you are looking for help with a troubled friendship.