In our previous blog post, we talked about four great reasons why couples come see us for our marriage counseling services. If your communication has become negative, if one of you has had an affair, if the two of you seem to be just roommates, or if you just don’t know how to move forward from an argument, then it might be time to see a third party’s opinion. Marriage counseling is the perfect solution for these issues, as well as any of the following:
One of you is acting out on your negative feelings.
What we feel on the inside eventually shows on the outside. Even if one of you has been suppressing your emotions for some time, these feelings will eventually show and possibly lash out. Negative feelings, such as disappointment or anger, can often turn into harmful behavior. If one of you has had an affair, then it is counterproductive for the other to agree to stay in the relationship and act in a spiteful way to continue to make the unfaithful one feel guilty. These sorts of harbored emotions can erupt and cause total discord in a marriage, and oftentimes, marriage counseling is one of the only ways to sort through these feelings productively.
It seems like the only possible resolution is separation.
During a particularly rough argument or disagreement, some space can be helpful. Taking a breather from one another for an afternoon can be helpful, but if your space apart turns into a night away from home or even temporary separation, then it might be time to seek marriage counseling. Spending any amount of time away from home is not usually going to resolve any issues you might have. Instead, it can make you or your spouse believe that getting distance is good and that absence is the way to solve problems. When the partner who left finally does come home, the issue is still avoided because time has passed and both parties have cooled off enough to ignore the fact the argument ever happened.
You’re only staying together for your kids.
Some couples believe that it’s best to stay together for the sake of their kids. However, a marriage counselor may be able to provide more perspective on this. While a couple might think they are doing the right thing by staying together, they could actually be harming their kids. On the flip side, there are couples out there who are able to work through their issues and move forward towards a happier, healthier relationship.
Contact Our Marriage Counseling Professionals
If you think that you and your spouse may benefit from marriage counseling, then it’s time to give us a call. At Counseling Services of Parker, we can help you two work through whatever issues you might be having and teach you stronger ways to communicate with one another. While not all marriages can be saved, we do believe that you will both gain clarity in what has been happening with your relationship and what the best method is for moving forward and improving your overall quality of life. Contact us today to schedule your appointment!